My Dear Women,
I have been up lately reading many speeches and blogs on feminism and modernization. Feminism is a second-rate word. I was reading a blog on female abduction, homosexuality, and gender equality, a man commented: “Women are a cheap product in modern civilization.” That made me question how can men compare females to “cheap product”? Just to show off their masculinity?
Maybe women are depicted as a product of submission because they are easily accessible to men. This is a disgrace to our society. Innumerable organizations including the UN are working for women development, empowerment, and gender equality. For this purpose, it has initiated #HEFORSHE. But, is this worth it if the individual is not ready to change his mentality towards the emphasized gender.
A woman is a product that gets torn between her personal, professional and social life, yet she tries to put up a good show. Every other night she gets beaten up by her drunken husband and she is sore when she wakes up in the morning. She is the one who gets sold and forced into prostitution because her father has to pay his gambling debts; a custom that our society thinks is filthy and taboo. She is not allowed to go to school because she is supposed to marry and raise a child at a tender age of 15. At work, she faces many sexual threats and insecurities.
Every woman gets raped emotionally on a daily basis, loses her self-esteem, to prove to herself that she is worthy to be accepted by the society. You don’t need physical strength to harm her because she is strangled and beaten up by male ego.
“It’s probably not just by chance that I’m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless he’s terribly strong. And if he’s stronger than I, I’m the one who can’t live with him. … I’m neither smart nor stupid, but I don’t think I’m a run-of-the-mill person. I’ve been in business without being a businesswoman, I’ve loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men I’ve loved, I think, will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. I’ve done my best, in regard to people and to life, without precepts, but with a taste for justice.”
― Coco Chanel
“If men don’t have to be controlled, women won’t have to be controlled,” says Emma Watson in her UN speech. Not every woman has a right to free will even today.
Both men and women should feel free to express their emotions. Men are expected to be strong, aggressive and “MACHO”, however, they have the same right to feel vulnerable. Men don’t have the benefits of gender equality either.
If we stop shredding fears of judgment towards each other and form a base of mutual understanding, we all will be liberated from this dilemma that makes us question our sexuality and our society. It’s all about freedom.
You might be thinking who am I, as an individual, to question gender inequality when there are various organizations and governments out there working on these issues; but believe me, nothing is going to change unless you and I decide to take a step towards being a little patient and understand the opposite sex.
This is the story of every teenage girl who secretly believes that she does not belong to the society and that she never will. It is the story of every woman who feels pressured to look a certain way, to adhere to an ideal behavior, and she doesn’t even understand why she is supposed to do so. It is the story of what it means to be a woman in a world that constantly discriminates and underestimates you just because of your gender.
I wrote this blog for all the women who never feel that they are good enough for this society. The person who is reading this, it’s not your fault, it was never your fault.
Let’s just do our part and take a solidarity movement for gender equality. I am #HEFORSHE. Click on the link given below and share this with all your friends and family. I am doing my part, are you?
Let’s start a conversation.