Too the times in our life, when we feel withdrawn away from the people around us. To the nights when we are wounded like an injured animal, finding our ways back to the base. Sometimes, you may feel anguish for the outcomes in your life based on your past choices. You’d wish that you had taken a different route on the journey towards your dreams and goals.
And all the right options you had to correct the situation from the past, you might have replayed it inside your head for the millions of times; cursing and blaming yourself or even the people around you.
Each of us goes through self-blaming and self-loathing at a certain point; in our life. And I feel that this constant struggle between our consciousness and emotions creates a great turmoil inside our system, leading us to suffer mentally and physically.
While some of us are dependent on our family and friends for the emotional support. Seeking help at a physiological level from our beloved once is soothing. But when you compare your actions and reactions with them; that equally cause insecurity and loneliness inside us. Comparison in terms of work, talent, sports, academically etcetera is liable for breaking down our self-esteem.
We need to understand that what we have is extraordinary. For example, you might not have the most beautiful voice in the world. But you do have a voice. You’re gifted with a tone to speak. Words to express and speech to communicate. That’s something to be grateful about I guess.
“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”
― Anthon St. Maarten
One of my very close friend; I have always regarded him for his emotional intelligence. I have seen him channeling his emotions, and measuring his words in anger. Something I never had control over. I intended to know how he never let his emotions rule him and always be at ease.
He told me: “Even if we know inside our head what is going on, we are triggered by the same people, circumstances, and events. “
It’s like adding more fuel to the flames causing an explosion. If you’re aware of the emotional triggers that cause your reaction and view it as an outsider inside your own conscience. Probability is that you’ll able to take logical actions towards the situation and be at peace mentally.
I know that in today’s world it is hard. And each of us is going through stress and anxiety on the everyday basis. Few of us find comfort on social networking sites, surfing pages and lives of others for hours. Focus on your life and your reality, because the virtual world is always going to be an illusion.
What is your weakness? Take responsibility for your action. If you have hurt someone’s feelings, apologize directly- don’t ignore what you did or avoid another person. People are more willing to forget and forgive.
Examine how your actions will affect others before you take those actions. Ask your self, Do you become angry at other person or blame them, even when it is not their fault? Do you react to the stressful situation? Do you become upset when something doesn’t happen the way you want?
The ability to stay calm and controlled in the difficult situation is highly valued. Keep your emotions control when things go wrong. Educate your self-emotionally and be smart. Develop your EQ.